A person attitude can be determined by his reaction when he is angry. It can be divided into six categories which are:
- Passive: A passive individual will attempt to evade things that can raise conflicts. They will not show their dissatisfaction. They are also hard to say ‘no’ without feeling guilty and avoid hurting other people feelings. They also will avoid making other people angry, uncomfortable or nervous. A passive individual tends to store their anger to themselves.
- Aggressive: This group needs and wants to control themselves and others. They cannot accept negative answer (like ‘no’) and use dissatisfaction or anger so others will feel guilty or retreat. Aggressive individuals use sarcastic words, humiliating others, rant, threaten and abuse to get what they want.
- Passive-aggressive: This group wants a draw in what ever condition. They are not open-minded like aggressive individuals. They usually behave a ‘two-faced’ – being good in front and say bad things at back. Passive-aggressive individuals control situation by not talking, staying away, gossiping and being uncooperative. When asked, they will say ‘no problem’ although their body language clearly showing something is not right.
- Strict: This individual will say their opinion directly, openly and sincerely without waiting others to read their mind. At the same time, they care for others’ feelings and needs. This group is sincere to themselves and hope that others to treat them with respect. They can control themselves, situation and being responsible. People said that this is the Western culture but this opinion is incorrect since it is a common and good human behavior and must exist to survive.
- Showing strictness: These individuals are actually have passive behavior because hoping others to express anger for their side. They actually are aggressive but afraid to show the anger, and using others to release the anger at certain individual.
- Reflective: This is the best way. Reflective peoples give room to themselves to feel the early stage of anger at either people or situation, but hold themselves from showing any anger.This individual gives time to his self to calm his feelings, no matter how long it takes.Then he rethink at those matters back, what can be learned and steps that can be taken to avoid the same thing to happen again. This technique can be done with or without communication with others. It can be done by communicating with his or her own self.
But, style of anger can differ according to situation or with who you interact. It also depends on motives, awareness and reaction of the individual. Your anger may quickly reside and fade away if facing a tolerable and forbearing people.Sponsored links: